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'She went to the address where her husband was gone for two years. She broke up home '


I must admit that today's early morning ringing is a real joy for a new day. "Madam, we have an old house on Krk. For six days, we are happy to offer you a holiday for one of your families." A week ago there was a similar offer of the hotel complex, which made me happy. For several years, they have been offering families of Slovenia's biggest grief for weekly holidays in their wonderful destinations.

How important is this kind of offer for families who do not have any chance of spending holidays outside the place of residence. Let it be at sea or elsewhere. How moving are the stories of families who have not yet experienced a common holiday in their lives. They can not even do it with their parents, even as their parents themselves. Because they are embedded in multi-generational poverty. And when we can enable them to leave at least a few days off from a dreadful everyday life, commitments, difficulties and shortages, they return to their dewy eyes and heartfelt gratitude. They say that their life after this first experience is completely different. They have come together on a break, relationships have become better, equipped with experiences that can be shared with rare friends, children with peers. Yes, life is everlastingly different, more motivated and gives them a new impetus.

Even today, the words of our therapist, which was full of families at the weekend in Zambratija, sound like words. We took them there in May – to accompany, psychologists and therapists experience a different attitude – as when they were involved in our support programs. When they were in the heaviest periods of life. We do this with the families of our Chain of Good People who are leaving our humanitarian program, because they are empowered to the extent that they will be able to go on their own. And therapists also directly check the dynamics of relationships within a single family. How differently, directly, in holiday homes, where parents and children are together. Well, and when they entered the bus, one of the mothers asked if they waited for at least two minutes. She came from the bus to the sea, kissed the water and the beach and thanked the sky for giving her the first time in her life to experience holidays in the heavens. The tears of happiness flowed through her cheeks automatically – in the bus they embraced as a family, all four children and both parents.

Anita OgulinPHOTO: Miran Jursic

And right today, he called the coordinator of the project Botrytus single father, who also for the first time in his 47 years with a six-year-old son at sea. He was so happy and happy – at the same time stressing that he can not believe that he is also worthy of this divine feeling – when both sons and daughters embrace the sea when they have prepared and served food when they sleep in a beautiful room with a bathroom. No, he will never forget this in his life, he gratefully said. And yet that he could not wait to tell all this when he came back, but right away, since he seemed to dream.

These are stories – that leave traces. Not just them and us. Society as a whole. For people experiencing poverty, they feel unworthy, disrespectful, weighted with shame, they are both mentally and physically ill, and their functional literacy is shrinking. Today poverty is no longer what it was decades ago and more. And it does not merely represent material deprivation – but consequently brings unimaginable social exclusion. The isolation and the remoteness from everything that we call life. And it's terribly tolerant of children. In recent years, we have seen a worrying phenomenon that children take care of the survival of the family. And of course, children do not have the equipment. The consequences are felt at every step, whether it is a deterioration in the health of children, inequality, inaccessibility to educational and other content.

During the independent Slovenia, we have lost the generation of children who are hiding their distress even before their parents. In our programs, with them, and also the consequences of these, we are constantly encountering. Therefore, it is not surprising that the survey of the Institute for Social Welfare officially provided us with information that the knowledge of Slovene teenagers is increasingly dependent on the economic, cultural and social status and education of the parents. As a society and a country, we should be concerned with the fact that poverty prevents dignity for up to five generations. Children from families in need are too often excluded, excluded from a peer company, lack access to knowledge and experience to help them overcome a vicious circle of poverty in their lives. Therefore, we work hard every day and strive for equal opportunities for children. And if we want to be effective, experience imposes that we must effectively enter the families that have become the outskirts of society.

When I write, it's Friday. And with a colleague, this day we usually go to family visits. We're not going to be today. Because the Commission for Humanitarian Affairs has enormous roles – and needs to be addressed, as users expect an answer. Meanwhile, therapeutic treatments for parents and children are taking place. If feds in the public administration are the ones that people can go earlier from work, our fridays are like other days of the week. Never, they never end before six or seven in the afternoon, in the evening.

Anita Ogulin is a longtime volunteer and philanthropist, humanitarian, fighter, who lives for the stories written by her life. She is a sensual, yet energetic woman who draws her strength from her family and nature, is the mother of two children and grandmother of two grandchildren. She does not care what kind of society we live in, and for the world to change for the better, she fights every day on a frenzied day. He records the days of his days in the diary for our website.

Of course, today there are also calls for a variety of grieving families who need comfort, advice, conversation. And that's also the day we take the time to talk to the most vulnerable. They come from everywhere. The oncological hospital, a mommy from the eastern part of our country, was brought by a rescuer. At the Institute, on chemotherapy. And she is so kind that she brought her to us and waited for an introductory talk – where she could present not only illness, but also unimaginable life-sting. Which she thought she was led by a disease. She is highly educated, two children and a husband who served abroad. And returning to their home once a month for two maximum three days. This was the case for five years. Then half a year passed when he was not home, and the calls were getting more and more rare. But if Mummy wanted her husband to talk to her, he did not report or was so busy that he could not talk. He also communicated less with children. At home, there were bills and bailouts for things and debts that neither mothers nor children did. She was looking for her husband, and because she did not find them, she went to his famous address. Abroad, to discuss the resulting state, the causes of it, the future and the doubts that blew her soul. She went to the address where the gentlemen had been gone for two years. Mentally broken, she just barely returned home. And a month after the realization of the dark sensation, she got sick. Huh. She could no longer do it, because mental anguish – and serious illness – prevented her from doing the difficult work she had done so far. Even the children were not able to accept the fact that all the means that gave them the path to education had dried up. They could not accept that they virtually lost any trace to their father. In front of them, she was also a very sick mother who could no longer provide them with safety, as well as basic survival.

Mommy says that the place where she lives is not understood. All three are completely excluded and excluded. They do not have a relationship with their neighbors; they have no friends with the child. Mental illness was another child. He sees no more solution …

It is. Everywhere, where there is a will, it is also the way. Only illness can severely hinder her, as in this monk's life. We equip her with goods and arrange for the resolution of distress.

Holidays are spent in the third week. The children return from the first two shifts from the sea and from Kranjska Gora, others are on their way there. The adolescents travel abroad, the little ones enjoy the holiday care … They are beautiful everywhere. There are new friendships, many talents are uncovered, beautiful memories are sprouting … And while many families have embraced the sea for the first time, they were hosted by mountains and sunshine by the sun of new, beautiful experiences for a brighter path to the common future.

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