– How does a woman’s libido change as and after menopause approaches? What does this determine?
Does longing always diminish or does the exact opposite happen?
– As menopause approaches, a woman’s menstrual cycle changes, hormonal balance. During menopause, the level of the female sex hormone estrogen drops sharply, which can lead to symptoms such as fever, sweating (especially at night), palpitations, headaches, changes in blood pressure, increased irritability, mood swings, insomnia and others. All of these symptoms can cause decreased libido as early as the first year after the last menstrual period. After 3-5 m. Symptoms associated with aging of the urinary tract and genitals may occur – vaginal dryness, itching, painful intercourse, vaginal discharge, frequent and painful urination, recurrent genital infections. While these physiological changes can further reduce libido, it is important to know that with proper introduction, use of aids (lubricants), and maintaining a close emotional connection with a partner, women feel comfortable and maintain lust for their partner. Thus, despite the approach of physical changes and even after menopause, the desires can be very individual.
– How do feelings change during intercourse?
– Feelings can change in different ways during sex. Some are more relaxed after menopause: they are not worried about raising children, the fear of getting pregnant. Women who are confident in their partner, unaffected by fears, can relax more and feel more pleasure and a stronger orgasm. Severe side of menopause associated with physiological changes or psychological problems. Menopause results in vaginal dryness, atrophy, which can lead to painful vaginal penetration or even mucosal damage and bleeding. Therefore, it is natural that the senses can be uncomfortable. Then you need more introduction, the use of lubricants, and in some cases a doctor. a gynecologist’s advice on how to relieve symptoms by making sex enjoyable again. In terms of psychological aspects, some menopausal women feel unworthy and think they are no longer necessary and unattractive. As a result, we find it difficult to relax, it is difficult to get excited, so negative thoughts can be tired during the whole action, lubrication and satisfaction are less. In this case, you need to be open with your partner, talk about annoying thoughts, in some cases you can consult a psychologist, sexologist or doctor. gynecologist.
– What feelings indicate that the problem is not menopause, so it may be better to consult a specialist?
– Any sensation that causes pain, bleeding, discomfort or anxiety is enough for a person to consult a specialist. If sex is extremely painful, often inflamed inflammation of the bladder, a woman notices the descent of the pelvic organs (vagina, uterus), bloody secretions appear – it is undoubtedly advisable to consult a gynecologist. If you are bothered by unpleasant thoughts, anxiety, it is likely that a psychologist or sexologist can help you.
– What could you do to make these feelings pleasant again, without medication?
– For many women, menopause is associated with aging, which worsens not only their physiological condition but also their psychological state. It is very important that you do not give in to negative thoughts, but instead think that menopause is the right time to take care of yourself, your body. With the onset of menopause, libido can be reduced, and dryness and discomfort of the vagina in intimate locations can lead to sex due to dissatisfaction with the aging body.
How to improve the quality of sex after menopause:
- First, talk to your partner, talk about your desires and fears. Don’t be ashamed to say that the body has become more sensitive now, the pain comes on faster when you want the relationship to become softer. If the relationship is uncomfortable, you will be afraid to express your emotions, of course you will start to avoid them. Sex helps not only to make you feel young, but also desirable, improves mood and quality of life.
- Because the vaginal mucosa dries out very quickly after menopause and becomes vulnerable, lubricants and condoms should be used during intercourse. Lubricants moisturize the mucous membranes and condoms protect against vaginal and sexually transmitted infections.
- To maintain vaginal moisture suppositories and treat dryness, use suppositories or gels with hyaluronic acid, natural estrogens (phytoestrogens) that rejuvenate and moisturize the mucosa, and the effect lasts longer. It is recommended to use candles 1-2 times a week or as needed.
- Physical activity. When postmenopausal genital muscle tone decreases, exercise, especially pelvic floor strengthening exercises – bowling exercises (exercises to tense and relax the genital muscles) will help restore and improve the quality of sexual intercourse. During exercise, blood flow in the pelvic organs is activated, which stimulates the formation of secretions in the vagina and increases sexual arousal. These exercises also reduce the risk of uterine prolapse and urinary incontinence.
- Creating a suitable relaxing environment during sexual intercourse. Soothing music, scented candles, relaxing massage.
- If you are dissatisfied with your appearance, visit a beauty salon, spa, buy new underwear or clothes – it will restore your confidence. Remember, menopause is a time to enjoy.
- Seek help and individual advice from a gynecologist, psychiatrist or psychotherapist, sexologist.
– Can longing return in a few years? And the feelings become pleasant again?
– Over time, the experience and feelings of each person, his strength and expression in general change, so it is not very reasonable to expect that after some time a significant change in the body, such as the onset of menopause, will return to previous experiences. But that doesn’t really mean the union will be unworthy. By using the right tools to overcome the symptoms of menopause in a timely manner, listening to the body, talking to a partner, a sex life can be truly colorful and enjoyable. For example, studies show that women in their 70s can experience sexual arousal and orgasm.
– What should men know and how can they help?
– Men should know that this period is very difficult for women. Not only does a woman physically change and her reproductive system, but also psychologically, in women, menopause is associated with age. During menopause, a woman loses the ability to conceive, loses ovarian function, reduces female sex hormones, and at the same time increases irritability, anxiety, depressed mood, and poor sleep quality. It is very important that they gain the understanding and support of men during this period.
Men should be aware that women during menopause often complain of vaginal dryness. We may feel discomfort due to dryness during intercourse. The elasticity of the vaginal mucosa is also reduced if the ratio is sparse – the vagina may narrow.
Changes in sex life with age can occur in both partners, so longer introductory words would be commendable, and the use of lubricants would provide more comfort.
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