BROTHER Geoff and Graham Christy share a strong bond.
They spent many of their childhood in regional NSW with their father's work. Changing schools and cities often meant that the brothers were stuck and regularly joined a group of sports teams to make friends and dive into their new community.
So when Geoff was diagnosed with advanced testicular cancer two years ago at the age of 37, Graham's older brother was right there next to him.
"Before the diagnosis, Geoff had abdominal pain and did not do anything about it. He left it about three months, and finally he was struggling to talk to a doctor," recalls Graham, 41.
"Mom and Dad came in and talked to a doctor to get some idea of how badly … the doctor said," according to his age and how far he has progressed, you may have to say what you need to say now to each other "… it was hard to hear".
Geoff was the 2nd stage when he was diagnosed and advanced to level 3 as cancer spread into the lungs. He immediately started treatment.
"Fortunately chemotherapy and nutritional changes have been put into remission for more than 12 months," says Graham.
"But this was clearly an extremely stressful time for us."
Unbelievably, two weeks after it was announced that Geoff was in remission, their mother was diagnosed with breast cancer.
But in 2018, the family has a reason to celebrate, and both family members have fired.
"My brother has a clear second year, and Mum has all his first year clear," says Graham.
Movember is now the reason near Graham's heart and speaks to news.com.au on behalf of the male health organization.
Not only physical health, which affected Graham's life – so in a youth that was moving around the region in Australia, Graham met with many men who are confronted with mental health issues.
"I had many friends who passed … one of the guys in our class when I was in Tamworth came to the wrong end of a big group … and he ended himself (he killed himself). He helped with his relative , who had Down's syndrome.
"Another friend in Tamworth went and made Pathways as a way of extending his HSC … we found out that his mother had a serious illness and made a Pathways to achieve the perfect score of 100 so that his mother would be proud of him He did not get the result, and at the same time realized that Mom has only a few months to live.
"My father had depression all his life."
Graham's own challenge lost 12 kg between Movember, as a gift to his brother (who lost 12 kg during cancer treatment) and also improved his health.
"At the time she worked chemotherapy, I always wanted to do mixed martial arts, so I tried to get the program, but unfortunately I did not go through.
"I started with pounds – I saw my young daughter following the same path, and I thought I had to be a good example for her.
The following year, Graham joined the Wimp2Warrior martial arts program and went from 106 kg to 89 kg in the 22-week program.
"After I returned to work and ran out of sleep for three hours, I returned to 117." When I saw what I said last year and a year before I was reminded that I really need my weight back under control. That's why I decided again.
So far, Graham has lost 4 kg over a limited diet and went to the gym three nights a week.
He plays his beloved football again with his brother, who is finally good enough to play with his club.
"For some time, because of our health, we could not insure clubs to be able to play sports – but this year he returned to football and in his second year back in cricket, which was great for him … and this is a great way, to spend more time with him.
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